i tried to e-mail jim (swirling brain) but his address and
webpage don't work anymore.
here's the message i sent:
as a jew living in nyc (well, just outside right now,
actually), i'm disappointed to hear of your treatment on
your recent visit. most likely, you were treated badly
because they thought you were a non-orthodox jew. some of
the local orthodox communities think badly of those of us
who are not orthodox and are, well, less than welcoming
to us. i think that had they known you were a gentile you
would have received better treatment. that's usually the
case, anyway: you're friend who indicated the orthodox
welcome for outsiders is correct.
alas, it's a shame either way.